I just wanted to know where I was from because Susan said she's from South Carolina." Her daughter, taken quite by surprise, wrinkled her nose and said, "Eww. The mother, thinking it was time for "the talk," took a deep breath and told her daughter everything she felt she needed to know about sex. For example, there is a story about a young girl who asked her mother where she came from. However, your answers should be age-appropriate using kid-language without giving too much too soon. Just as Deuteronomy 6:6 says that you are to teach the Lord's commandments " when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up," so it should be with questions about sex. Teaching your kids about sex begins when your child asks the first question. That is not what you want forming your kids views on relationships, marriage, and sexuality.
I could lecture about how such magazines and tv shows are bad and seriously undermine God's plan for sexuality, but I'll state it simply: just keep it out of your house. Many magazines and now, even books, tout unmarried sex as awesome and exciting (and, well, it is, but it isn't God's plan or timing). Many televison shows display young, attractive people in serious physical relationships outside of marriage. Watch the magazines that you bring into your house. In fact, show affection on purpose.Īlso, monitor what your children are watching on television and seeing on the internet. I'm not saying that you need to be pornographic in front of your children, but don't be afraid to show affection in front of them.
Do we tell our children that they should wait to be married before having sex? Then make sure the picture that they are getting is that the married physical relationship is a great one. How do you relate to your husband? If you treat him like he has a disease every time he tries to kiss you when the kids are around, what type of message does that send? Children need to know that marriage is the place where it is ok to show physical love.
Sexual union exists: (1) to make babies, (2) to nurture a mommy and daddy's love, and (3) to point us back to the love of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit." ( See the full article here.) Sex is a gift from God, but timing is important. According to Rob Jackson on the Focus on the Family website, " sexuality provides at least three basic lessons that our children can understand. Form a healthy view of sexuality yourself. Here, I'll share with you just a little of what I have learned.ġ. Over the last few years, I have been asked lots of questions about boys, puberty, sexuality, books about puberty, etc.
It wasn't until I heard that tell-tale "squeak" when he was yelling and searched "boys voice changing age" on Google, that I realized what was going on. When my son's voice started changing at the age of 11, my husband thought a stray baseball may have damaged his vocal cords. One day, puberty came creeping into our house when I wasn't looking, jumped out of the shadows, and scared me to death. However, God saw fit to make me the mother of two boys. I grew up in a house with my parents and three sisters. Please note that this is meant for other moms of boys, although numbers 1-4 below apply to all children. I don't think it will, so I give you what I know. Despite starting an outline over ten months ago, it never fell into place. However, this subject is very uncomfortable for me, and therefore, I have postponed writing about it, coming back every once in a while to see if it will all fall into place. I have asked so many questions and have been asked so many questions, and as a mom of two boys, I wanted to share what I have learned.
When I first decided to start blogging, I planned to write about boys and sexuality as one of my first posts.